Why is it we struggle with endings?

It’s the end of the year, so once again I reflect on what I have experienced this year: the happy, the good, difficult things like physical and emotional pain, new friendships, the list is quite extensive.So traditionally many people in Great Britain, irrespective of where they are geographically on this great island will be singing Auld Lang Syne and as they do some will be relieved this year is drawing to a close ” glad to see the back of it”; while others will be filled with mixed emotions knowing that, as the year draws to a close and we all sing and wish everyone friend or stranger    “Happy New Year”  they know next year i.e. 2014 will bring lots of changes for them. Endings hold many different connotations -a break up of a relationship, moving home, changing job, death of a loved one… I suppose it’s not so much about the ending itself, I guess it’s whether I make the right decision to end something like a job or a relationship. I remember pulling the plug about a year ago on a thirty year friendship which is a long time, and I found this exceedingly difficult to do, especially as over the coming months, I still was unsure if the decision I had made was the right one. It hurt me emotionally to end this friendship – so many memories……

For those that are less fortunate and feel they have no control of the human things that happen to them like their husband or wife divorcing them – it must hurt deeply and in some cases the pain remains with them for the rest of their life. In time they make adjustments and learn to live with the situation. I know from my own personal experience what this feels like – not easy.

We struggle with endings in the many guises it represents, because we are meant to, we are human beings, complex in our thinking and in our behaviour to; it’s what make us and defines us. Perhaps if we were allowed to choose to be less human and live the life of a simple creature like the ladybird which has different needs yet fights for survival none the less, most of us would always choose to be human. One never knows what’s round the bend? As one door closes another one opens eventually .All you have to do is go through the door………..Happy New Year to you all!!
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